Memoir
Date Published: December 11th, 2025
Publisher: Acorn Publishing
Vincentia Schroeter dreams of building a family of her own and expects an easy pregnancy. She imagines following in her mother’s footsteps, surrounded by the love of children. However, when complications mount, she must face the likelihood that her wish will never come true.
As her sisters bear children, and women all around her share their happy baby news, Vin grows more envious than ever. The frustration continues as hard truths test her patience and faith and medical professionals deliver devastating blows. The only thing she knows for sure is that she is determined to become a mother.
A story of one woman’s harrowing path through trauma and disillusionment, Babymaking is a heartfelt memoir of vulnerability, rupture, and repair. Vin’s journey reminds us that hope and unconditional love have the power to lead us to the place we were always meant to be.
What was your main drive to write this book?
I
felt compelled to tell the story about my journey through infertility, baby
loss, and adoption, through the lens of trauma, faith, and hope.
What do you hope readers will learn by reading this book?
I want readers to walk with me through these
stages, to feel the lows and highs, and to deepen their appreciation and
understanding of babymaking when it includes loss, longing, and the adoption
triangle.
Did you do much research when planning this book?
I revisited my personal diaries from the 1980’s, when all this
occurred.
Did you have any main people who helped you in the process of this book or influenced you to write it?
Yes, I met
weekly with my writing coach, Marni Freedman. This is the fourth book of mine
that she has deftly shepherded me through, and I value her wisdom and guidance.
How long did this book take you to write from initial thought to hitting publish?
It took six years.
Do you have plans to write more about this topic or new topics?
I plan to look at all aspects of the adoption
triangle, the world of birthparents, adoptees, and adoptive parents. There is
new research that shines a light on the level of trauma involved, and I want to
learn more about this to help raise awareness.
Vincentia Schroeter grew up in a small town in central California as the fourth of twelve children. Intrigued by the many different personalities in her family, she knew by the age of sixteen that she wanted to be a counselor. She put herself through college and graduate school in order to pursue her dreams.
Vin is the author of the award-winning self-help book, Communication Breakthrough: How Using Brain Science and Listening to Body Cues Can Change Your Relationships (2018). She also co-authored a training manual on somatic psychotherapy that has been translated into three languages.
After a forty-year career as a psychotherapist listening to clients’ stories of pain and trauma, Vin felt drawn to share her own story. She now lives in San Diego with her husband Steve and enjoys pickleball, painting, and time with family, including her dog, Ren.
Instagram: @vincentia_schroeter
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